There are many ways to get lost in your own life. You can get lost in a relationship. You can get lost in addiction. You can get lost in success, busyness, distraction, care-giving, resentment, fear, or trying to be the version of yourself that other people are most comfortable with. Sometimes you can even get lost while looking perfectly fine from the outside. That is one of the more painful truths about being human. We do not always disappear all at once. More often, we dri

Gay Pride Month is often celebrated in public. There are parades, flags, parties, community events, drag shows, speeches, concerts, and plenty of rainbow merchandise that may or may not have been approved by the gay committee. And all of that matters. Visibility matters. Celebration matters. Community matters. But for gay couples, Pride also has a quieter, more intimate meaning. Pride is not only something we celebrate in the streets. It is something we practice at home. It s

Why money fights are rarely just about money I’ve been thinking lately about how often couples told me, “We keep fighting about money,” as if money itself walked into the room, took off its jacket, poured a drink, and started making everyone miserable. And honestly, sometimes it does feel that way. Money has a strange way of slipping into places where we did not invite it. It sits down at dinner. It shows up in bed. It comes along on vacation. It waits quietly inside conversa

I’ve been thinking this week about a funny little cultural trend that says more about relationships than it probably means to. In England and Wales, “Date My Mate” events have been selling out quickly. Instead of scrolling through profiles, people show up in person while friends pitch them to a room full of possible dates. The whole thing is part comedy, part matchmaking, part “please rescue us from dating apps before we all lose the will to flirt.” The deeper point is this: