“You complete me” sounds romantic. It plays well in movies. But in real life it causes a lot of pain. If you expect a partner to fix...

Reflections From A Gay Men's Recovery Retreat I just came back from a gay men’s recovery retreat where the topic of dating and sex came...

This past Sunday I had a long conversation with a friend of mine and he asked me, “I need a book for single men who are looking for a...

“Reentry is where love gets tested, not because something’s wrong, but because you’ve both changed.”   It’s the end of my first week back...

It’s Thursday morning, August 14th. I’m sitting in the United Club at Heathrow, watching planes taxi in the early morning overcast sky,...

It’s week one of my Kadampa Buddhist retreat here in northern England. The countryside is green and peaceful, and the silence is slowly...

I’ve been at my Kadampa Buddhist retreat in northern England now for six days. I’ve seen so many friends from past years and met a lot of...

It’s a clear, sunny morning in London after three days of off-and-on rain. Yesterday, I rode on the Underground with Al to the airport...

It’s our last weekend together in London, and Al and I have are getting close to leaving “Tourist Mode”. We have ridden the Underground...

London Check-In: Tourist Week with Al It’s tourist week here in London. Al arrived last Saturday, and we’ve hit the ground running ever...

It’s Saturday morning here in London, and I'm up bright and early with coffee in hand. I’m getting ready to leave for the Heathrow...

I’m back at Starbucks in Soho today, enjoying the sunshine and drinking my favorite Starbucks drink a Grande Caramel Macchiato and still...

“Before starting off this blog id like to ask for your help. Many of you have purchased the book through Amazon but have not left a...

Walking through London this week, I’ve felt a buzz of excitement as the city prepares for its Pride celebrations this weekend, July 5th...

Today in London, I kept my promise to myself—to experience something new every single day. My adventure took me to two very different...

I’ve just arrived in London, sitting in my favorite spot at Café Nero in Soho. It's a perfect afternoon for sipping coffee,...

I’m writing this from my desk in Palm Springs, with suitcases half-packed and a flight to London just a few days away. I’ll be there for...

I’m writing this from our kitchen table in Palm Springs. It’s early, and the light is just starting to spill across the floor. Al is at...

Most couples who come to therapy say the same thing: “We fight too much.” Then they give me the laundry list. Money. Sex. Housework....

I’ve sat across from a lot of gay male couples in therapy who look like they’re doing just fine on the outside. They share a home. They...